Criticism – Turning it into a Tool Part 2

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  1. Criticism – Turning it into a Tool Part 2

Whether a criticism is intended to be harmful or helpful, you can still choose to be in control of how it affects you.

This is Part 2 of a 2-part post. If you missed Part 1, which covered –evaluating the person’s intent, controlling your thoughts from purposely harmful words, and learning to evaluate the criticism objectively–please use the series link above to read Part 1 first.

Third, decide whether or not you have grown to the point of accepting positive criticism.

Though no one usually enjoys criticism, not all criticism is bad. Sometimes, the hurt we feel is not because the criticism is harmful, but because we have not grown to accept constructive criticism. For example, if the criticism came from a boss, yet you are feeling extremely hurt, it may be that you have not learned to accept even helpful criticism because your self-esteem is not well established. Though there are some bosses with issues, usually criticism on the job comes from people who have more experience on the job than you and are trying to catapult you to reach your potential. If you sense this is your situation, work on establishing your self-esteem or self-worth as well as taking captive the unrealistic thoughts that your boss doesn’t like you; make yourself focus on advancement. Click on Self Worth in the Tag Cloud in the right column for articles to help you with your self-esteem.


Last, whether or not the criticism was intentionally harmful, you can use it as an opportunity for personal growth.

The best way to explain this is to illustrate it with various examples.

  • If you “wear you feelings on your shoulders” and are too easily hurt by people’s words, choose to use the situation to learn to take captive those thoughts and think on good thoughts; your emotions stay steady and your decisions be more effective.
  • If you are in the habit of allowing people’s words to control you, such as with a person who is intentionally trying to harm you, again, use this opportunity to take captive those thoughts and think on good thoughts; then you will develop the habit of having authority over your own thoughts and not being manipulated by people’s words.
  • If you take the opportunity to see if there are elements of truth in the criticism that are resulting from your personality flaws and adjust them, you will be a better person who is continually growing and has healthier relationships all around.
  • If the criticism came from a person who is purposely harmful, using God’s 2 steps of dealing with harmful thoughts will bring you a great deal closer to living in a state of forgiveness, as your mind is not being manipulated by the negativity of their words.

You have authority over how people’s words affect your life.

Do not allow those who desire to harm you to manipulate your thoughts. Yet, do yourself a favor and take advantage of the opportunity to grow from criticism in areas of your life that you may have otherwise neglected.

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